Sexual harassment scandal rocks cultural heritage school

The Korea Herald/Asia News Network | Tue, May 21, 2013

State-run Korea National University of Cultural Heritage is embroiled in controversy over a professor who was dismissed after a series of allegations of sexual harassment were made against him.

While fellow professors call the incident an "embarrassment," a high court nullified his dismissal and the Cultural Heritage Administration fueled the dispute by appointing him to a prestigious project within the organisation.

According to a group of professors at the school, which specializes in teaching Korean traditional culture, related techniques and cultural heritage management, Kim Ho-suk, a former professor of traditional art and handicraft, in May 2011 was fired by the school board for sexually harassing students. Kim reportedly made inappropriate remarks in reference to female students' bodies between 2008-2010, which resulted in a 39-year-old woman submitting a petition to the Ministry of Culture, Sports and Tourism, as well as the Cultural Heritage Administration.

Kim denied the allegations and filed a suit against the school for the nullification of the dismissal, but was eventually convicted of sexual harassment in 15 out of 17 cases submitted. The Daejeon High Court added that on top of the sexual harassment, Kim had received kickbacks from businesses.

However, the court ruled that Kim should be allowed to return to the school because the punishment he received was too harsh. The school appealed and the case is now pending at the Supreme Court.

"It is a great shame that Kim is thinking about returning to the school and it seems that he doesn't see the gravity of his deeds. A victim is still undergoing psychiatric treatment and some more have testified that they have been traumatized by his remarks, which prevented them from continuing their studies. Sexual harassment is a grave matter for the academia, which has a responsibility to nurture future leaders. It should not be dealt with lightly," said a professor who is among a group that released a statement denouncing Kim and the CHA last week.

Kim has been appointed as an adviser for a project to preserve the Daegokcheon Bangudae Stream Petroglyphs, which are being considered for recommendation for UNESCO World Heritage status.

The conservation of the petroglyphs is a pet project of CHA administrator Byun Young-sup, who has publicly said her mission at the post was to save Bangudae, which she described as "worth dying for." Byun has reportedly dismissed criticism of Kim.

"It is a great shame that Byun, who vowed to root out all sexual harassment and offences in the organisation, is using such a person. We have received information that the CHA has been pressing the school to rehire Kim but we will keep seeking what is in the best interests of the school and the students," the professor said.

Ref:asiaonenews

Using nudity to battle sexual violence in Singapore

Mariam Yuan

SINGAPORE: A group of Singapore female university students told Bikyanews.com in December they are planning to organize what they describe as an “explicit” nude calendar to battle against sexual violence in the Southeast Asian city-state.

The students, all between 18- and 22-years-old argued that the media is sexualizing women to a degree that men believe them to be objects for their every desire.

“So we are going to give them that, to the fullest of our ability. If they want to see a naked woman, let’s do it, but at the same time we will promote an honest debate over the role of women and sex in the region,” said Anya Xi Liu, who told Bikyanews.com that “we will have lesbian scenes, sex toy scenes. But it will also have specific messages of ending sexual violence.”

They argue that with the rise in anti-women media across the region and the increasing pornographic industry, “there needs to be a change in perception of women. If we want to show them sex, they better understand that they have to ask before touching.”

And that’s the tentative title of their calendar, which will include 24 photos of the young girls, completely nude.

“We want to make it clear that women are strong. We can be naked and still don’t want to be raped or assaulted,” interjected Claire, a British student who is joining the campaign.

Although they haven’t set a date for the calendar to be released, they admit it will likely only be on the black market at first.

“It will be too edgy for many people, who will view it as porn, but that is the point. To get people aware that we are not objects that can be pushed around. If we want to get naked, show our bodies and push a message, that is our goal,” added Liu.

It is all part of the ongoing battle against female perception vis-a-vis the pornographic industry and their use of women without considering the impact it has on the role of women and their bodies in society.

“I think this is a unique campaign and one that will shock many people, but it is needed to create a message that we are not just bodies to poke and prod,” added Liu.

Ironically, their inspiration comes from China’s Wang Li Danna, who was outed earlier this fall as a woman in a porn film. The Singapore students say that it showed them that even if a woman uses her body for her own private and business interests, they are shunned and condemned.

“But men who perform in sex tapes and porn films are praised as macho. This is wrong,” Claire argued.

                                                                   

Is Singapore anti-women

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SINGAPORE: For the past few months, we have been reporting regularly on women’s rights issues, doing the best to not trivialize or sexualize women in Singapore. But continued articles published by English and Chinese language websites have continued to confound the issue.

Most recently, an article by AsiaOne.com showed how high-end restaurants, clubs and other establishments are hiring “attractive” women in the city to wear little clothes in an effort to entice customers to come by.

Short skirts, lingerie-clad hostesses are now such a commonplace in the city that few think twice about seeing a little – or a lot – of leg.

But I wonder, as a journalist, if we are doing enough to ensure that women’s voices are heard in this city and across Southeast Asia. As an Asian woman, I feel that the rise of the porn industry and the overly sexual nature of women’s reporting has left us cold to the stark realities facing us women in the is part of the world.

We are often seen and written about as submissive sexual characters who want to please men. It would appear, from the articles written about women that here in Singapore, the young women on the pages of magazines, at clubs and in the business sector, use their bodies for personal gains.

At the same time there is a failure on journalists’ part to adequately report on the positives that women are contributing to society. There are a large number of female executives here who do not resort to sex to get ahead. They are the true heroes of our supposedly progressive society. But they are left aside, in favor of the bikini, or less, adorned woman.

It is a frustrating time to live in Asia as an Asian woman. The media sees our vagina as a means of reporting. What we do with our bodies seems to always be up for discussion. In effect, it is our body that gets the attention.

When we face sexual violence, too often the media views this as a positive for the men. Women are not getting a fair shake in this regard. The media push a stereotype that views women as sex objects, for men’s pleasure and gazing. It is time to change this perspective.

If a woman has had sex, that’s great, it’s her life, but for the media to continually approach the topic of women’s issues in a manner that disregards the woman and focuses only on what she has done with her body, this begs the question: is Singapore becoming anti-women?

** This article was originally published on December 9, 2012.

Ref:Bikyanews.com

HESE REASONS MIGHT BE WHY SEX SCANDALS ARE ON THE RISE IN S'PORE

What is behind the rise in sex scandals in Singapore? A forum user, DownWithEvil, posted his thoughts, citing power, prestige and the general degeneration of morals as some of the causes.

Said the user:

"This question has probably crossed your minds in the past few months, as this nation grapples with a slew of unprecedented sex cases that have virtually littered the year’s calendar.

"Let’s recap the major ones: Yaw Shin Long’s case, a couple of teacher sex scandals involving women teachers and their male students, Ng Boon Gay’s case, Peter Lim’s case and the recent Michael Palmer case.

"In all the above cases, bar the Yaw case, the perpetrators enjoyed a position of power & dominance over their partners.

"Men have not changed much. Men, particularly in a position of power & wealth, are always on the lookout for potential vulnerable targets. It’s the women that have changed that are resulting in the spike. In the past, sex scandals were rare simply because women were rather reserved and were less likely to be a willing participant.

"The powerful & lofty positions enjoyed by Yaw, Michael, Ng and Peter have put them in an ideal situation where they are able to take full advantage. In the above cases, it is most likely that these men fully leveraged their power positions and milked them to the fullest.

"It does takes 2 hands to clap naturally and that’s where prestige comes in. This goes down to the animal instincts of a female. She’s looking for security, not looks, not anything else in a male. A political or a high ranking office bearer certainly fits the bill. It is thus not uncommon to find that some women, married women in some cases, willingly throwing themselves in front of these men.

"We also cannot ignore the obvious fact that morals are degenerating across the board. This is a world wide phenomenon that is not only confined to Singapore.

"Picture this; Parents that are not in touch with their children and are only concerned about making money. They leave their children with maids or foster care. In the long term, what’s the result? Parents do not pass on good moral values and have no time or opportunity to correct their children’s bad behaviours and change them.

"If we want to reverse this alarming trend of moral deterioration, we need to start changing the way we live, spending more time with our children to impart better values and revamp our schools to focus more on a more holistic education."

Ref:therealsingapore

20 years matches passion illicit affair

By ROWAN PELLING

QUESTION:  In my late 20s I had an affair with a married man. It was the most passionate, painful and amazing thing that happened to me. I ended it after a year because of guilt but nothing in the 20 years since has come close to that intensity. I ended three perfectly good relationships because they couldn't match it. I'm terrified I'm chasing phantoms - what should I do?

ANSWER:  The terrifying thing about thwarted passion is that it often takes an even greater hold than the gratified kind. Twenty years ago, you pointed yourself at someone you couldn't keep, so you never lived through the gentle re-adjustments that happen with fully-fledged relationships.

The intensity of your attraction was never diluted by the routines of domestic life. You didn't row over money, mess or children's bath times. You didn't have enough time together for his features to become over-familiar or the animal magnetism to fade into something more human and fond. 

The terrifying thing about thwarted passion is that it often takes an even greater hold than the gratified kind

You have allowed the sex to become so enshrined in your memory that no mortal man can equal that voltage. Furthermore, this fledgling romance had all the thrilling, operatic allure of the  illicit. You threw yourself into an impossible situation at an impressionable age when everything seemed like a torrid novel. 

 

  

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There's a reason why most of the great love stories of literature are concerned with affairs. The tortured passion of Anna Karenina for Count Vronsky proves more gripping than any tale of happy-ever-after, as it's fuelled by exhilarating jeopardy.

But back here in real life, do you want your relationships to be constantly overshadowed by grief and hazard? These dramas wear your heart out in the end. I don't know if you practised a form of self-sabotage by ending three good relationships, but it  seems probable.

It's time to admit you've placed a highly destructive myth at the heart of your emotional life. You need to look back at that affair and acknowledge what would have happened if you hadn't ended it. 

You would have shouldered the guilt of finishing his marriage, and watched him grow old and careworn, with diminished libido.

I wonder if you've glimpsed him since things ended? 

It can be helpful to see ex-lovers because they have often changed and lost their allure. Wham! In a second their grip on your heart is gone. A short course in counselling could be useful, too.

I'm not telling you to accept second-best - you deserve a passionate relationship. But a step towards emotional maturity is the realisation that an assiduous lover is sexier and more valuable than a withholding, part-time one.

It's time to relinquish your  phantom and find a flesh-and-blood man who loves you in the here and now

Ref:daily.com.uk

The best place to have sex on campus is the library, says university student

This article was contributed by the STOMP Team.

Source: The New Paper/AsiaOne

One of the best places to have sex on campus is the library, said Nadia Cho, columnist for her university's paper and student at the University of California, Berkeley.

She went on to say that having sex on campus is 'actually very doable, and it's lots of fun', in addition to being 'surprisingly easy'.

Nadia was writing for her sex column in The Daily Californian and she wanted the last column of the semester before finals to be a lighthearted one, meant for pure amusement, so she wrote about her sexcapades on campus with a male partner.

Little did she know her account on romps in the school library, and classrooms in other parts of the university would go viral. She was writing in response to an article that appeared earlier this year in the newspaper questioning the 'doable' nature of sex on campus.

Nadia wrote:

"The risk of getting caught is what makes having sex in public so exciting. Without that, there wouldn’t be any novelty in doing it. It’s fun to challenge yourself to not make any noise while having sex.

"There were two instances in which people walked by the shelves between which my partner and I were going at it hard-core. It was like a game — having to frantically put our clothes back on and immediately pretending to be interested in the data collections of the European Union while panting and giggling hysterically."

However, her sex acts on campus might very well be a criminal offence, with some saying the undergraduate had violated a section of California's penal code which states that 'exposing his person, or the private parts thereof, in any public place... is guilty of a misdemeanour'.
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'Sex on campus is lots of fun and surprisingly easy': Berkeley student's controversial column for college newspaper boasting of romps in library.

• UC Berkeley student had sex on campus and wrote about it in column...
• Nadia Cho writes that she and a male student had sex in Berkeley's library and classrooms the day before Thanksgiving

By DAMIAN GHIGLIOTTY

The elite University of California, Berkeley has seen a blow to its uber-serious reputation with a controversial article from a student boasting about her marathon campus sex sessions.

Nadia Cho's detailed account was part of her weekly column in The Daily Californian, Berkeley’s independent, student-run newspaper.

Cho writes that she and an unnamed male student started their romp in Berkeley’s library, Main Stacks, the day before Thanksgiving, when the campus was ‘marvellously empty’.

Berkeley Student Nadia Cho's Twitter Profile reads: 'i like coffee, cats, and ice cream. and being the sex on tuesday columnist at the @dailycal :)'

But other students were in the library studying while the two performed and more than one student walked by them in mid-act, Cho writes.

She and her partner then moved into one of Berkeley’s classrooms, as she graphically describes.

‘Sex isn’t always about c****** and having orgasms. Sometimes it’s for s**** and giggles,’ she writes.

‘Having expectations and goals can ruin the fun of it. Besides, it’s probably not a good idea to ejaculate in public places - just saying. Keep this in mind should you ever attempt sex on campus.’


Not so private: The Main Stacks library at Berkeley University, where Cho says she and an unnamed male student had sex.

Cho writes that her experience was inspired by a spring 2012 column for the paper, ‘Sex on campus: actually doable?’

Her response: ‘yes - having sex on campus is actually very doable, and it’s lots of fun. It’s also surprisingly easy.’

The Daily Californian has a history of publishing controversial editorials, and in some cases issues containing brash statements have led to newspaper theft - a form of censorship where free newspapers are stolen in bulk to cut down on readership.

In 2002, former Berkeley mayor Tom Bates pleaded guilty to stealing and trashing 1,000 copies of an issue of The Daily Californian that carried an endorsement of his opponent Shirley Dean, who was mayor at the time.

Bates beat Dean two days later and took over office.

Liberal college? Berkeley University of California

After Bates’ admittance a year later, stealing free newspapers in Berkeley became punishable.

Bates paid a $100 fine for his infraction and promised to support a local ordinance against newspaper theft.

The Daily Californian published its first issue in 1871 and is one of the oldest college newspapers in the U.S. It became independent from UC Berkeley in 1971.

The paper, which is now published by the Independent Berkeley Students Publishing Company, has a circulation of about 10,000 and a readership of about 42,000, according to its advertising information.

A spokeswoman for the university said: 'The Daily Cal is not an official university newspaper, it is a student-run, public newspaper and they do not have our backing. 

'We have known about that column for a long time but there is nothing we can do about it. The students have a right to free speech.'

Cho could not be reached about her story.

Ref:dailymail.co.uk

Comments;

British people (and by extension British students) can't "fathom or understand" that sex is a natural part of College? Is that a serious comment? If so, all I can do is laugh. Someone needs to visit Britain before making such sweeping statements. Maybe we're just a bit classier and don't "fathom or understand" the need to broadcast our conquests in a newspaper collumn.

- Oracle , UK, 05/12/2012 00:22

I cannot believe that someone in the ENGLAND of all places is writing criticism about a university that the country knows nothing about. I happened to have grown up all my life literally a BLOCK away from UC Berkeley, so I can firmly say that this will NOT ruin Cal's reputation. Berkeley has withstood and has been a center for openness and advocacy and that's part of what makes Berkeley what it is.It's part of the school's history and identity.Sex is a natural part of any American college student's life, something that I think British people will never understand or can fathom. Cal might be state school, and it isn't "elite" perhaps in the sense that many of you British folks might think, but it is highly respectable, and has many outspoken students. The image of Cal (or even the student who wrote the column) will not be destroyed because of what she published. Shame on all you people thousands of miles away in a country across the Atlantic Ocean for demeaning Americans as "stupid".

- rosepetal101 , California, United States, 04/12/2012 19:24

what a wonderful girl. and what stupid reporting from the dm. berkley is not 'elite' it is a STATE university. it is not ivy league. while of a high academic standard, it is in now way socially 'elite' like princeton or yale. berkley is also NOT NOT NOT 'uber-serious'. it is one of the top party and play schools, know since the sixties for its drugs and sex lifestyle. of course no dm writer would ever know anything about american universities.

- jim crawford , oxford, 04/12/2012 11:56

My oh my what have we got here. A little angel who is also a little ***t. My name is Rod and I pull some of the hottest women in Longwood. And they r easy, just like this little ***t. Life is good, real real good:)

- Dr. Rod Long , Longwood FL, United States, 04/12/2012 12:44

Common sense where did it go? Will adds like these have a major affect on college newspapers or news papers as a whole, in the future? Yes, she has freedom of speech to spill the beans on her personal sex life (as if anybody wants to know about it), but, to put it in a newspaper for all (any age) to see, is there a line crossed? How far is too far? As Americans, we have 1st Amendment freedom of expression, speech, and press, however, will instances like these impose harsher restraints on our freedoms to express explicit, profane, and sexual content publicly? Surely Berkeley doesn't like their name plastered all over the web as the University with the "newspaper sex columnist." Can they and/or are they going to stop her, restraining what their student newspaper writers can say? If they do, does this go above their head as a university to a Supreme Court decision in regards to the 1st Amendment? This is an interesting scenario which will surely bare interesting results in the future.

- Ksbright , Knoxville, United States, 04/12/2012 04:13

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A small, X-rated snapshot of the sexual lives of Imperial students.

Felix Sex Survey

Tim Arbabzadah - Felix Editor

A small, X-rated snapshot of the sexual lives of Imperial students.

You can view the whole version here.

Presented above is a small, X-rated snapshot of the sexual lives of Imperial students. While the data has certain obvious flaws (see ‘Sensitivity and Reliability’ below), it nonetheless leads to interesting conclusions. For instance, the Union was the most popular place on campus to have sex – followed by the Library and, disturbingly, the Felix Office. The Maths Department simultaneously boasts the highest proportion of virgins as well as of students who have sex every day (the department must be full of envious stares across the lecture theatres).

We saw that male-dominated departments collectively masturbate more than their gender-equal equivalents; mainly because men were revealed to masturbate far more than women. Imperial students are overwhelmingly straight, but also, interestingly, more respondents identified as bisexual rather than gay.

The majority of students (around 60%) lost their virginity between the ages of 16-18, but on average, 15% are still virgins. Around 50% of respondents admitted to watching porn at least once a week and 26 adventurous students identified as straight but admitted that they had slept with a member of the same sex.

10% said that they have engaged in a threesome and the vast majority rejected the idea that studying at Imperial had restricted their sex life. However, one poor student commented: “Boys NEVER hit on me here! Literally, the better I look, the more they run away. I get the most attention when I look a bit rubbish. They need to MAN-UP!”

The results are, admittedly, a mixed bag. While the data is not wholly unrepresentative, it is not strong enough to indicate anything other than certain trends. They also sadly don’t offer any quick fixes for stagnating sex lives. If you transferred to the Maths Department, for instance, you would be just as likely to have a year-long dry spell as daily multiplication exercises.

What sexuality are you?

The majority of polled students were straight; hardly a surprising result. But the data became more interesting when we compared responses across sexualities. Gay men and bisexual women (there were no gay female respondents) were substantially less likely to be virgins than their straight peers. Bisexual women were twice as likely to masturbate regularly than straight women and had the highest proportion of respondents claiming to have sex daily. 50% of gay men said that they masturbated every day, compared with only 20% of straight men.

How often do you masturbate? Guys vs. Girls

The results confirmed the common assumption that men masturbate more than women. 68% of men at Imperial said that they masturbated every day or a few times a week while only a quarter of women at Imperial said the same thing. Whereas students in a relationship masturbate less frequently than their single counterparts, the total fraction of onanistic students (of either gender) is unchanged. 

Bisexual women and gay men were the most likely to make use of sex toys, though nearly 30% of straight women and 16% of straight men admitted to their use. One unexpected result was the number of respondents claiming to use more than 4 sex toys – a figure over 10% in certain departments.

How often do you masturbate? By Department

So who are the biggest wankers? The Materials Department are well in front with 73% of their students masturbating daily or a few times a week (regularly). However, due to the low number of respondents there, the potential for error is quite high. Mech Eng, by contrast, is a much more stable sample. 70% of their students masturbate regularly, compared with only 36% in the Life Sciences Department – perhaps due to the greater percentage of female students. The trend supports the idea that women masturbate less, as departments with more females lie low in the spectrum.

How often do you have sex? By Department

Incredible though it may seem, the Mathematicians place third in our survey for frequency of sexual activity. In fact, their Department has the highest percentage of students who claim to have sex daily. By contrast, almost 50% of students in Aero and EEE are either virgins or engage in sexual activity only a few times a year. While almost a third of Imperial students claim to have engaged in anal sex, this figure rises to nearly 50% among Chemists. In the breakdown by year group, PhD students and current 3rd years are the most experienced in this area.

Comments from the survey

“I lost my virginity to a girl and a guy in the same night. one in a car, the other in the woods.”

“[I attended a] 27 all-male orgy hosted by an ex-TV presenter. One of the most incredible experiences of my life – and another ‘thing to do before I die’ checked off the list.”

“My first sexual partner exploited me and I haven’t had sex with anyone since because I don’t trust them to not do it again.”

Sensitivity and Reliability - Editor

Before I begin this short analysis of the figures displayed above, I would first like to express my appreciation to those who trusted us enough to share their deeply personal data. We strived at every juncture to ensure that the data was completely anonymous, and college usernames were not seen at any point in the data analysis. By the time of going to print the raw data has been entirely deleted.

It is also important that I confess my inexperience in the fields of surveying and statistics. There were a number of instances where the questions and available answers limited data collection. Several questions did not allow multiple choice where they plainly should have (‘Where have you had sex on campus?’ being an obvious example), and others had too limited a range of answers – many legitimate respondents complained that a limit of four sex toys was far too low. Perhaps the most egregious mistake on our part was to group people with differing numbers of sexual partners together (the combined 1-5 category instead of the separate 1, 2, 3, 4, 5). This loss of resolution restricted a lot of interesting analysis.

In addition to this, the results are skewed in a number of noticeable ways. Firstly, the respondents are precisely those students comfortable enough to discuss their sexual lives after having used their College username to unlock our survey. Perhaps such uninhibited students have more active sexual lives than their unsurveyed colleagues. While we tried to promote the survey widely, the somewhat skewed number of 3rd and 4th year respondents indicates that a significant number are part of the wider social network of Felix Editors. Additionally, our participation was limited to 562 students, with individual departments providing anything from 11 to 104 responses. Those with smaller sample sizes are self-evidently less generally representative. As a final disclaimer, every attempt was made to weed out nonsensical responses.

Refhttp:felixonline.co.uk

Stopping sexual harassment at work

Stopping sexual harassment at work
AsiaOne | Sun, Nov 25, 2012
SINGAPORE - From being groped to being called a 'piece of ass' -- these are some instances of given by victims of sexual harassment at the workplace that have been compiled by women's group AWARE.

A research study conducted by the group in 2007 - 2008 showed that more than half of 500 people randomly surveyed experienced some form of workplace sexual harassment. Calls to the group about this type of harassment trumped the number of calls made about domestic violence in this year alone.

54.4 per cent reported that they had experienced some form of sexual harassment. 25 per cent knew of other people who had experienced some form of sexual harassment, 30 per cent of those who had been harassed indicated that they had been harassed several times, and 12 per cent of those who had been harassed had threatened with forced termination of their jobs if they did not comply.

The survey also showed there were more female victims (79 per cent) than male victims (21 per cent) and harassers often target junior employees or foreign workers who depend on their job to stay in Singapore.

Laws are limited to deal with offenders

In response, Aware has launched the Sexual Harassment Out (Shout) campaign to highlight the problem of sexual harassment in the Singapore workplace, and give victims a platform to share their experiences anonymously. Companies are also asked to their commitment to implement policies against sexual harassment.

It is also calling for written laws to equip employers to deal specifically with this issue and allow victims to seek assistance in a 70-page report on workplace sexual harassment released today.

In the report, Aware said that most companies do not have any sexual harassment policies or procedures in place, as there is no statutory obligation on employers to do so.

Currently, victims of sexual harassment can complain to their employers or their unions, file a complaint in the Subordinate Courts or lodge a civil suit.

If they have been molested, or their modesty outraged, or even raped, they can file a police report.

But even as these offences can be investigated by police, non-physical harassment such as being subjected to unwelcome or lewd comments are treated as non-seizable offences. This means that police will not be able to arrest the offender.

And often, victims find that they have little recourse in the end and most end up resigning, as civil remedies are expensive and do not award damages for emotional distress and psychological damage, and criminal cases are difficult to prove beyond reasonable doubt.

The report also said that Singapore is obliged under the Convention of the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW) to enact legislative provisions on sexual harassment in the workplace and in educational institutions.

The Aware report also cited real-life case studies of victims of sexual harassment, who were unable to bring the offenders to justice. Here are three examples:

Case no. 1: Molested and ashamed Q, a Vietnamese woman employed as an administrative executive, was molested twice by her manager. The first time he kissed her on the forehead and said it was part of the training. She did not report it as she did not want to make an issue of this.

The second time, he locked her in a room, pinned her against the wall and tried to lift up her skirt. She eventually managed to escape and ran out of the room.

Thereafter, the manager tried to touch Q whenever he saw her. Q did her best to avoid him in the office.

Q was miserable at work but did not report or tell anyone in the office as she was on an “S Pass” and was afraid to lose her job. She was also not very fluent in English and was not very comfortable communicating in English.

At home, she cried to herself during the period of the harassment. She did not tell her husband what happened as she felt ashamed about the incident.

Her husband was deeply concerned and managed finally to get her to tell him about what had happened. He persuaded her to report to the employer, to make a police report and to come to AWARE.

Case no. 2: Sexually abused T, an administrative clerk, was sexually abused by her boss for close to a year.

She did not report to the police for a long time as she was the sole breadwinner of the family and she was afraid of losing her job during the economic recession.

The company was a very small business run by her boss and his partner.

Initially, the perpetrator touched her breasts and knees. This then escalated to the perpetrator forcing T to perform oral sex on him more than once. Each time she struggled but did not call the police.

About a year after the first incident, the perpetrator tried to rape her. He failed but ejaculated on her.

It was only at this point that she decided to report to the police and to come to AWARE.

Case no. 3: Lusty boss disillusions young employee P, a Chinese national who graduated from a top US University was employed by the Singapore office of an international bank. P was recruited as part of an elite group of graduate trainees and had signed on to a one year contract with the bank. She was contractually obliged to compensate the bank if she terminated the contract prematurely.

P was forcibly french-kissed and molested by her senior boss after an office party. He continued to harass her for a few months by touching her waist, shoulder and neck and making inappropriate comments about her dressing and his lust for her.

P was distressed and upset by the constant harassment and experienced repeated nightmares and insomnia during this period.

P wanted to resign but felt trapped by her one year commitment and the penalty she would have to pay for premature termination.

P told her direct supervisor about the harassment. The direct supervisor told P that she could not do anything about it as the harasser was “too senior” within the firm and very influential in the industry.

P consulted a lawyer who advised her that there was little that she could do legally and that she should report the case to the Police.

P did not want to report the case to the Police as she wanted to continue working in the industry and did not want to risk having a “bad” reputation.

P then came to AWARE who assisted her to report the case directly to HR. She managed to get some monetary compensation from her employer but was so disillusioned by her experience that she left Singapore and her job to start afresh in a new country.

cynloh@sph.com.sg
Ref:asiaonenews

S'pore women fifth most unfaithful in the world

S'pore women fifth most unfaithful in the world, says Durex survey

Singapore women have been ranked the fifth most unfaithful in the world, according to a survey by condom maker Durex.

The objective of the study was to find out who the most unfaithful lovers in the world are.

The survey polled 29,000 women in 36 countries, and the women of Ghana came out tops. Sixty-two per cent of them admitted that they often cheated on their boyfriends and husbands.

In second place were Thai women (59 per cent), while Malaysian women were third (39 per cent). In fourth and fifth place were Russian (33 per cent) and Singapore (19 per cent) women respectively.

Results from the same survey showed that men from Singapore and Hong Kong are the most promiscuous in Asia, with an average of 16 bed partners in their lifetime.

Malaysian men apparently have sexual relations with an average of three women on a casual basis in their lifetime.
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Nigerian women are the most unfaithful -Durex

Survey shows that 62 percent admitted to cheating on spouses

ARTICLE | DECEMBER 7, 2011 - 4:57PM | BY NKECHI OPURUM

A survey conducted by condom manufacturer, Durex, in which 29,000 people in 36 countries were interviewed has ranked Nigerian women as the most unfaithful in the world.

According to the survey, Thailand men are the most unfaithful in the world, with 54 percent of them admitting to cheating on their spouses.

South Korea came in second with 34 percent, while Malaysia ranked number three with 33 percent.

The survey revealed that the top two countries with cheating women are Nigeria, with 62 percent, and Thailand, 59 percent.

39 percent of Malaysian women also confessed to having betrayed their partners. Russian women came fourth at 33 percent while Singaporeans are fifth at 19 percent. 

Ref:dailytimes

10 mostunfaithful wives in the world

Recently in December of 2011, 29,000 people in 36 countries were interviewed by Durex, the condom manufacturer. They found that the following people were the most likely to cheat and commit adultery. All in all, 50-65% of husbands and 40-55% of wives have an affair before they are 40.

1. Nigerian women:

62% of Nigerian women are the most unfaithful. Recently Major Chitsiko, a soldier committed suicide after his wife cheated on his. The couple was estranged. Also in November 20011, Erelu Tola Solomon, a social elite in Lagos and Abuja, decided to ruin her 25 year marriage after having sex with a Lagos businessman.





2. Thai women:

59% of women living in Thailand admitted to cheating on their husbands. The rules seem more relaxed in Thailand then they are in the West. Many husbands even allow their wives to commit adultery.





3. British women:

A UNLV article on infidelity and extramarital affairs noted that Britain had cases at a rate of 42%,

The country experiences a high rate of women cheating.





4. Malaysian women:

33% of Malaysians are known to cheat. 39% of the Malaysian women, in particular, are known to betray their marriage vows. It was also revealed that Malaysian men had an average 3 sex partners.





5. Russian women:

33% of Russian women are known to be cheaters. Interestingly enough, the adulterer is not the one to blame in Russia. The finger is pointed towards the person who kindles the affair. The fingers also point to women and that has been a century old tradition for 100s of years.





6. Singaporean women:

Durex has established that 19% of women in Singapore are known to be unfaithful. Singapore men are known to have up to 16 sex partners, which explains why the country has 19% unfaithful women.





7. French women:

Women in France are 16.3% likely to commit adultery. Men are 22% likely. A Huffington Post article believes that France made adultery mandatory, given that 93% of the population is committing it.








8. American women:

14% of married women have admitted to having an affair once during their married life. 54% of the married men did not know about their spouses extramarital activities. This comes in a society where 50% believe that adultery is morally wrong. Interestingly enough 61% of Americans

believe that adultery should not be a crime.





9. Italian women:

The judicial system in Italy has decriminalized adultery for married women.

The women now can lie about having an affair to protect their honor.





10. Indian women:

Women are known to be adulterous in the country of India. India does not recognize the crime infidelity causes. This is probably the main reason why there is a huge a risk of HIV and AIDS.

Ref:newvision2012.weebly